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Sunday, September 3, 2017

“Do You Love Me?”

 A sermon based upon John 21: 15-22
Preached by Dr. Charles J. Tomlin, 
Flat Rock-Zion Baptist Partnership
14th Sunday After Pentecost, September 10th, 2017,    (Series:  Questions Jesus Asked  #12)

After JFK was assassinated, Jackie Kennedy did an interview with Life magazine.  During that interview she revealed that her and her late husband’s favorite musical was “Camelot”.  Since his death she had been saying one line from that musical score over and over in her mind: “Don’t let it be forgot, that once there was a spot for one shining moment known as Camelot.” 

In the British legend, Camelot was the name of the Medieval Castle and Kingdom of the mythical King Arthur and his Knights of the Round Table.  Although some claim there a actually was some sort of ruler who defended England against invaders from the Saxons, this has never been proven.  Richard Burton once played King Arthur and sang about that mystical, mythical kingdom of what might have been, but is gone forever: Camelot.

At least to some of the disciples, the Kingdom of their Messiah must have seemed like “Camelot”.   The life of Jesus, at least on earth, was over.  The preaching of the nearness of the kingdom had gone silent.  The immediate hopes of the establishment the Kingdom in Jerusalem was gone: “There was a spot, for one shining moment called Camelot” could have been their song too.  This is exactly how the gospel of Luke concludes, with two disciples talking about what might on the road to Emmaus.  And even though Jesus has shown himself to be alive and present among his immediate disciples, as their resurrected Lord, many, many questions still remain. 

So what did Simon Peter do with all this upheaval?   He went fishing.   Perhaps he’s still trying to figure it all out.   Then, for a third time, and now as a stranger on the beach, Jesus appears to help Peter and the disciples make a very large catch of fish.   After they share breakfast together, Jesus asks Simon Peter a most intimate question:  “Simon…, do you Love me more than these?”

DO YOU LOVE ME…?
As we come to this final question of Jesus, we consider a question that wasn’t just meant for Peter, but is also for us.  This question of Christ still sounds in human hearts, even after all these years.  It could be translated: “Do you (still) love me?” After all that has happened?  After all that hasn’t happened?  With all that might or will happen, do you, can you, will you, love Him more than these other things?

For Peter, ‘these things’ refer to his fishing business.  Fishing is what Peter was doing when Jesus found him, and fishing is what Peter is still doing to make his living.  There is nothing wrong with fishing, either as a pastime or as a career.  Peter was a fisherman; Matthew a Tax Collector, Luke was a Physician, and Paul a Tentmaker.  The apostles and disciples had their jobs, careers, and duties to perform in life too, just as we all do.  But the question that continues to come to us in the midst of all we do to ‘make a living’ is what do to ‘make a life?’ It other words, what will we do that makes life worth living?   What will bring us the joy, purpose, and the fullness of life?    

One thing we may already know is that it only is the answer to love’s question that has the potential to transform everything we do.   Perhaps the depression that Jackie Kennedy experienced right after her husband “Jack’s” assassination came because this ‘love’ question was never settled between them.  She said she knew Jack loved her, but he had mistress after mistress during their marriage.  She said she knew he would always come home to her.  And she said, as an excuse, that this was the way many men were in that day.  Was it, really?  I can’t help but think that it was the unanswered question about love, about devotion, about faithfulness and even about righteousness that still loomed over her like a dark shadow, long after his death.  Did he really love me, more that he did the others? 

What does ‘faithful’ love look like?  How does faithfulness to Jesus Christ look like? Can we, for ourselves, ask and answer this question without any form of reservation:  “Do we love him, more than all those other things?”   This is not just a question for Simon Peter and this is not just a question that happened on a day we gave our hearts to Jesus the first time.  This is a question that must be answered by every generation and by every Christian, each and every day, by comparing our love for Jesus with all those other things we also treasure.  Do we, Do I, Do you, still love Jesus more than these?

I find it to be a unique, remarkable, unmistakable and essential part of the Christian faith that at the very center is a big question about ‘love’.   I can’t recall anything this personal in Islam about loving Mohammed or Allah.  I also can’t recall anything about loving Buddha in Buddhism or loving Krishna in Hinduism.  But beginning with later Judaism, and beginning with the book of Deuteronomy, we find Israel being commanded to ‘Love the Lord Your God with all you heart, soul, and strength.’ (Deut 6:5).  The Jesus of the Gospels picked up on this Commandment to ‘love God’ as the greatest commandment of all.  And even though Jesus clearly explained that “God so loved the World …”(John 3:16), Jesus now reminds Peter, and us, that is not just God’s job to love us, but it is also our job to love God ‘with all our heart’, and ‘more than these.’  ‘Do you love me?’ Jesus asks.  Jesus is not like Jackie Kennedy; he does not allow any other lovers.  So, before the next chapter in Peter’s life, and before last chapter too, Jesus wants to clear the air, once and for all?  And his question is not just for Peter, but also for us: Do we really love Him more than anything else?

FEED MY SHEEP
And if we say we do love him, how do we know?   “The demons believe and tremble” James says.  “Many say ‘Lord, Lord,’ but do not do what I say (Mat. 7:22; Luk 6:46), Jesus said.   We say we love him, but how does our love for Jesus show to be more than mere words?   Jesus doesn’t seem to trust words.  Once he told the religious of his day: “You study the Scriptures diligently because you think that in them you have eternal life. These are the very Scriptures that testify about me, yet you refuse to come to me to have life (Jn. 5:39-40 NIV).  You can read, do, and say all kinds of religious things, you can do all kinds of good things, but you may still leave the question of daily devotion and love unanswered.   Three times Jesus asked Peter, “Do you love me?”  And three times Peter answered, “Lord, you know I love you!”   Was that kind of exchange really necessary?   Did the resurrected Christ need to be pressing this point this hard?   Peter had denied Jesus not once, but three times, but Jesus is not trying to rub it in, but to ask the question as a way of forgiveness and redemption: “Peter, do you love me!  Peter, do you love me?  Peter, do you love me?   How can I know?  How will your love be proven so that it is more than words, more than past feelings, and more than something that never really was true?    

It is often said that if you have to ‘prove’ your love to someone, love is already lost.   Of course, that can be true.  If married people, couples, or families are always demanding for prove of love to each other, there really could be something terribly wrong.  And what might be wrong is that love is not being proven in the day to day activities, relationships, work and the stuff of life. 

In Philip Roth’s acclaimed Novel, American Pastoral, Roth tells the tragic story of a Jewish man (the Swede he was called), whom everyone in High School thought would have a beautiful life.  The Swede was a star athlete, went into this father’s successful business, married an Irish beauty queen, and then had a beautiful daughter.   But as the story unfolds, his beautiful daughter develops a terrible stutter; ends up rebelling against her parents.  The daughter, who is his ‘daddy’s girl’, gets drawn in to an activist group of the turbulent 60’s.  She makes bombs that actually kill people.  She runs away from home and goes into hiding.  She never comes home.  Her parents are devastated.  The beauty queen mother loses her mind.  As she heals, she cheats on the Swede.   The Swede finally locates his daughter, but she still doesn’t come home.  There is really no home left to come home to.  

As the novel (or movie) ends, a few friends are gathered around the Swede’s casket.   He has apparently died somewhat prematurely, at 62 years of age.  His friend, who became a writer, narrates and summarizes this sad moment: “Everyone thought his life would be the most likely to be showered with blessings, but we were wrong.”  The scene closes with the fugitive daughter in disguised, approaching the grave from the distant.  You are left wondering whether she realizes that her Father’s love, that was never ending, has been proven to her beyond all her adolescent doubts.  (http://www.npr.org/2016/10/15/497864544/new-american-pastoral-movie-is-a-60s-tale-still-relevant-today).

Somehow, someway, and someday, love has to prove itself.   The world Peter dreamed of, hoped for, and expected had fallen apart.  Even Jesus Christ the Messiah and his undying love was not the way Peter had imagined.  But now Peter stands, not beside the tomb, but before the Risen Lord and there is only one question that matters.  This question is not: Why did you deny me? Look, how you failed, or even the victorious, “It’s finished”, over, and completed.”   None of this matters now.  Even our failures, hang-ups, letdowns, or defeats don’t matter, as long as we can pick up the pieces and truthfully, hopefully, and personally answer love’s question: “Do you love me?” 

A very personal Christian faith requires a very personal answer.  Faith gets personal, because faith is personal, and the answer of faith must be personal too.   And if you do still personally and specifically love Jesus, does your life, your work, your goals, your dreams, and what you do each day, from here on out, does it prove your love for him?  Jesus died of a broken heart to prove God’s love for us.  We don’t have to die of a broken heart, like Jesus or like the Swede, but we do have to a change of our heart, allow our heart to be challenged, and be willing to answer the call to follow God’s heart, if we want to prove that we really do love God because of his love for us.

What Jesus tells Peter he must do, to prove his love, from here on out, is to “Feed” and “Tend” Jesus’ sheep.  Only Peter’s actual, active answer to God’s calling upon his life, can prove his ‘love’ is more than a feeling and not just words.   “If you love me,” Jesus says, then you must renew yourself to doing in your life what you say with will do with your lips.  Peter, if you love me, you’ll be catching people, not just fish.  Peter, love is something you do.  And if you love me, love is something you must do for me.

We should know that this is not just a question for Peter.  It is recorded in the gospel so because it remains a question for all those people of faith who come after Peter.  If we love him, how will we and should we prove it?   This is the question that our true love for Jesus will never let escape without an answer?  As the romantic poem goes: “How much do I love thee, let me count the ways!” (Elisabeth Browning).   Well, how can you count them?  How can you count them this past year, this past week, or in your plans for the week to come?  How can you ‘count the ways’ that your love for Jesus gets translated into the ways you are now living your life? 

A recent religious cartoon in the Biblical Recorder had an interview, with one person inviting another person to church.   The person being invited answered, “Just because I don’t come to church, don’t pray, and don’t read my Bible, doesn’t mean that I don’t love Jesus.   The person doing the inviting responded, “Well, if you don’t go to church, you don’t pray, and you don’t read the Bible, how can you know that you love Jesus?”   Now, I know and you know that you can go through all the right motions, and love can still be dead.  You can even remain faithful to someone in a marriage, and love can be dead.   Couples often don’t take care of their love.  Christians can keep coming to church, read their Bibles, and pray; yet their ‘love’ has gone cold.  Many people can answer the love question, by saying, “Well, I have my faith?”  or “I’ll do my Jesus thing on my own”, or “I have my own religion, thank you?”  “Lord, You know everything“You know I love you”, Peter says.   But Jesus says, “Do you?  Really?  Then, prove it!  Feed my Sheep!”  And do you notice how Jesus commands, “Peter, feed MY sheep, not YOUR sheep!”  The true answer to love’s questions is not an answer that comes on our terms, but it is an answer that is given only on Christ’s terms.  This is how true love always, on the terms of the one who is loved.

YOU MUST FOLLOW ME
In a world of individualized, self-centered religion, personalized religion, this love question must be answered personally, but it must be more than a personalized, self-centered, self-focused, or self-motivated answer.  Why is this important?   Why is it important that our answer to love, be more than only ‘my’ or ‘your’ kind of answer?

Recall that one incredible scene in the award winning musical about struggling, persecuted Russian Jews, Fiddler on the Roof.  After Tevye and Golde have raised all their children; after they have done all they could do to be good parents, good people, and faithful spouses in a dangerous, threatening, changing world.  One of the new struggles they had to face, was that their daughters wanted to marry for love, rather than have their marriages arranged.  This was difficult for the conservative, orthodox, traditional Jews.  But after their final daughter was about to wed, Tevye turns to his wife Golde, and asked her, with musical score; “Golde, It’s a new world.  Love.  Do you love me?” 
(Golde)  Do I what?
(Tevye)  Do you love me?
(Golde) Do I love you?  With our daughters getting married And this trouble in the town.  You're upset, you're worn out!  Go inside, go lie down!  Maybe it's indigestion
        (Tevye)  "Golde I'm asking you a question..."   Do you love me?
        (Golde)  You're a fool.
         (Tevye)  "I know..."  But do you love me?
         (Golde)   Do I love you?   For twenty-five years I've washed your clothes
         Cooked your meals, cleaned your house.  Given you children, milked the cow
After twenty-five years, why talk about love right now?
(Tevye)  Golde, The first time I met you  Was on our wedding day
I was scared…. And my mother said we'd learn to love each other and now I'm asking, Golde, Do you love me?
         (Golde)  I'm your wife.
         (Tevye)  "I know..."   But do you love me?...
        (Both, in musical union) It may not change a thing, but even so after twenty-five
          years, It's nice to know.

Our own ‘personal’ answer to God’s love is even more than ‘nice to know’.  After Jesus has asked Peter the ‘love’ question and near the end of their very intimate conversation, Jesus reminds Peter of what is still to come, for him, and probably for us too.  “Very truly I tell you, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go." (Jn. 21:18 NIV)

It sounds very much like a Charles Dickens, Ebenezer Scrooge moment, when the Ghost of Christmas future reminded Scrooge that he’d change his negative attitude, because one day, someday, and perhaps in the not too distant future, he is going to get old and die.  With the negative attitude he has now, no one will want to care for him, remember him, or even less, mourn for him, unless he changes.   In a similar way, the Risen Jesus is reminding Peter someday, he is going get old, have limitation, then die too.  But death is not really mentioned, nor is it the problem.  The big crisis to come in his life is that he is going to lose his freedom, his ability to choose or control his life.  What are you going do then doesn’t matter, because your life will be more about what you are not able to do, than what you are.

“Follow me” now Peter.   This is what Jesus challenges.  This is the only answer of love that makes sense.   But it’s not just about doing what you need to do now, because someday you won’t be able too.    What Jesus is saying is that Peter, if in love you will follow me know, even when it is hard,  because your faith and love is true, when that day comes,  true faith and true love, will hold you, sustain you, and enable you,  even when it seems you have little life left.   Simon Peter, prove your love for me now, so love will carry and sustain you, when you’ve got nothing else left, but love.

Most of don’t like to go into nursing homes, because of reminders just like this: “someone else will dress you and lead you where you don’t want to go.”   I’ve been going into nursing homes and hospitals all my life, but never really face my own coming day of weakness, until I had those five ‘foot’ surgeries between 2008 and 2010.  Most of that time, I was unable to walk, confined to getting around with walkers, scooters, crutches and a boot.  I didn’t spend much time in a hospital, but I did spend too much time confined to home.  After wearing an artificial fixator, an instrument that was like a ‘halo’ around my leg and foot for almost 6 months, I started having anxiety attacks, especially when I got on elevators, had to ride with someone else driving, or when I had to wait in waiting rooms, for felt myself being restricted in many other ways.  Seven years later, I’m doing much better now, but I still get a bit nervous on elevators, or become impatient in tight situations.    
The lingering emotion, thought, or feeling of all this, is that it is all a foretaste of the ‘test’ of faith, trust and fortitude that is still to come.  We are all being tested this way, and as I discovered, the love in my life now, will be the ‘love’ that brings me strength and hope then.  This is why love is the question, the only question.   For without love, bearing any kind of load in life can become unbearable.   You’ve seen it haven’t you?  Young or Adult people not doing their job, not bear the load, not taking command of their lives.   It’s someone that is almost impossible to do, unless you have and can give love.  When we know we love, have loved, and will be loved, life can be hard, but we can endure, we will withstand and bear the great burdens of life. 

Back in 1987, Will Willimon lost his friend and pastor colleage, Grady Hardin to cancer.  He told a crowd of new students and parents how he learned that his friend was in the final grasp of the Enemy, called death.   He told how Grady called him, saying, "Thanks for asking me to preach. That will be last sermon I will preach."
"Oh, but there are ways", .... "There is therapy. You are fortunate to be here at Duke. Chemicals, radiation, things to be done."

For the next weeks, Grady did battle with the Enemy. The pain increased, the cancer spread, wasting him, leaving him half of what was. But each time we entered Grady's room with solemn faces, even in pain, Grady found something to celebrate, something  to elicit laughter even when we wanted to cry.  “In those moments,”  Willimon said, ‘You could almost hear the Enemy, pacing the floor outside. Waiting for the people in white coats to be done, waiting for the preachers and the former students and the friends and family to be done with their stalling and get out of the way.

“His day came, despite everything, on a Friday in June.  Grady's ordeal, which began on the First Sunday of Lent was over on Pentecost. The Day when God' s Spirit descended found Grady's spirit ebbing. The Enemy paced, paced back and forth, growing  impatient now, ready to pounce.  Through his last breaths, Grady led in prayer.”  Can you believe that?  The dying man led in prayer?  The prayer went:   "Lord, support us all the day long  Until the shadows lengthen, And the evening comes, And the busy world is hushed, And the fever of life is over, Then, of thy great mercy, Grant us a safe lodging, And a holy rest, And peace at the last;  Through Jesus Christ our Lord."   Willimon concludes: “The door opened and there stood the Enemy -- with the most forlorn look you ever saw. He reached into his quiver, to finally do the deed, and was embarrassed to find there only rest and peace at last. And Grady roused briefly, stared the befuddled Death in the eye and said, "Free, at last, thank God,  free at last."  Death's great victory, just ruined. Five days later they gathered at Duke Chapel and sang Easter victory songs.  (https://repository.duke.edu/download/duke:316626).

What can love for Jesus do for Jesus?  Probably nothing; at least as far as we can tell.  What can love for Jesus do for you, or me?”  Probably everything.  We may not see it now, but one day we will.  As a song goes:
And all fire and flames took all we trust we're kicking up dust. Stations fade just like they do.  Oh, time will tell, we always knew.  Oh, time will tell, we always knew.   


Time will tell, so answer what you must, now!  Do you love him?  Then, follow him, show him, get closer to him, and let Him know, so you will know, that your love is true.  Do you love him?  Of course you do, so live for him, follow him, and when the time comes, you will also be ‘free at last’.  Amen.

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