A sermon based upon Colossians
3: 12-15; Luke 7: 1-10
By Rev. Charles J. Tomlin, DMin
Flat Rock-Zion Baptist Partnership
The Fifth Sunday of Easter, April 28th,
2013
“Serve
the Lord with kindness; this shall be our theme, As we walk together In his
Love supreme…..”
That’s not exactly how the third verse
of B.B. McKinney’s 1930 hymn goes, but it could and if we know what’s good for
us, it will. We must serve the Lord gladness
and also with KINDNESS. It is that
kindness we give to one another that will bring us the gladness and joy of life.
Actually, there is another hymn that directly
expresses the high value the gospel of Jesus places upon the grace and virtue
of kindness. It goes: “In Loving Kindness Jesus came, my soul in
mercy to reclaim, And from the depths of sin and shame, Thro’ grace he lifted
me.
From Sinking Sand he lifted
me. With tender hand he lifted me,
From shades of night to plains of light, O
praise his name, he lifted me!
Just as Jesus’ came to save ‘in loving kindness,
our loving Kindness toward each other keeps the mercy of grace going and keeps the
light of love on. But as Tom Long has
written, Christian kindness is “a simple, but it’s also a not so simple.”
KINDNESS:
SIMPLE, BUT NOT ALWAYS EASY
The story goes that two neighbors met
after not having seen each other for a while.
One asked “And how are things with you?”
“Oh,” said the other, “I’m managing all right, although I lost my
husband several months back.”
“What happened,” asked the friend?
“Well,” explained the widow, “I was making dinner and asked him to go to
the garden and get some corn. After he’d
been gone a long time, I went out to check on him. There he laid, dead – a heart attack.”
“How awful! What did you do?”
“Oh,” said the widow, “I had a can of corn in the pantry, so I just used
that.”
Kindness is seldom an automatic, easy
matter in a culture like ours. We are in
such a hurry to get to the next thing, to express what we feel, or complete our
own agendas at almost any expense, that simple kindness can be overlooked. But in
our text from Colossians, Paul says that our behavior as Christians is not to
mirror the culture, but to counter it as we follow and become like Christ. Paul writes, "As God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with
compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience."
Notice that Paul suggests that Christian
kindness simply flows out of who we are,
as “God’s chosen ones, as God’s holy ones, and as those who are loved by
him. Kindness is not something we decide
out of the blue or want to do for a change, but kindness should come naturally with
the growing awareness and knowledge of our relationship and standing in
Christ. In kindness, God has chosen us,
so we choose to be kind. God calls us to
be holy, so we choose saints who care in divine kindness. We are loved, so it is natural for us to
love and be kind to others. But as our awareness of God has decreased,
so has our ability to be kind. Kindness
has gone missing, because God is missing in many lives. Some still know how to be polite, but do we
still know what it means to be kind? In
a recent U.S. News & World Report poll, 89% of Americans think that
rudeness, incivility, and a lack of kindness has become a serious problem in
our culture; and that it has gotten much worse in the last 10 years. As church attendance declines, so does the
kindness quotient.
This is a sermon about kindness, simple
kindness, and it’s also about kindness that is harder and harder to find in
people. But in this sermon I want you to
see the opportunities that we have, all of us, to put our faith into practice
in the most practical way, as Paul says in Colossians, to treat other people,
and to treat each other here at church with gentleness, meekness, tenderness,
mercy, and kindness. Sometimes we do;
sometimes we don't. Sometimes it’s
simple, sometimes it’s hard. Kindness is
simple, but not so easy.
When I say it’s not always easy, you
know already what I’m talking about. I'm
talking about the woman who runs the cash register at the grocery store. She's
had a hard day. Her face is lined with weariness. Her hair is soaked with
perspiration. She's beginning to be irritated at the customers, and you're next
in line. What are you going to say to her?
How are you going to treat her?
What will you do to make her day better and make her at least wonder whether
or God might be looking down on
her? Might you be that kind? It’s simple, but sometimes it’s not so easy.
Several years ago, there was a woman who
made my life miserable. There was a
misunderstanding between us and she would not let it go. She became so angry with me that and she had
so much influence in the church, that she made it impossible for me to continue
my ministry there. We took a call to
another church, though we were still living in the same community. A couple of years after that painful chapter
of our lives, Teresa met that woman in the grocery store. When
she saw Teresa she froze in fear. I
guess she had told so many lies on us, either or conscious was bother her, or
she was afraid Teresa would come over and slug her one. Teresa did walk up to her. The woman stepped back. Then Teresa put her arms around that ‘troubled’
woman and hugged her, telling her, as the woman broke down in tears, “It’s O.K. It’s O.K.”
Kindness. It’s simple, but it’s not always easy.
Maybe you heard about the widow, who
lived in the country. In spite of that,
she was a very godly lady, but she had a neighbor who was an unbeliever. He hated the idea of God. He hated the church
and he particularly did not like this woman, because of her godliness. He was
always being rude to her and very mean to her.
This woman tried repeatedly to reach this man and to build a friendship
with this man and to witness to him, but he would have none of it. He despised
her. He despised her God and he especially despised her chickens. You see, this lady had chickens. In fact, it
was part of the way that she earned a living, by taking the eggs and selling
them.
One day her chickens got out of her
yard, into this neighbor's yard and it just infuriated this man. He picked up
one of those chickens, wrung its neck and threw it back over the fence. He
wasn't even watching where he threw the chicken and she happened to be in the
yard and that dead chicken landed at her feet. When
the man saw where the chicken landed, he just turned and stormed into the
house.
That evening, the widow knocked on his
door and there she was holding a fresh plate of fried chicken. She gave it to him and said, "I hope you
enjoy your dinner." It broke that man's heart and he wound up giving his
life to Jesus Christ. Heaven came down
and filled his soul just like that fried chicken filled his stomach. And it all happened because of a plate of fried
chicken. Now you know why preachers like
chicken. It’s simple, but when you pay
for the chicken, or, better yet, if you are the chicken, it’s not easy.
KINDNESS: SOMETIMES EASY, BUT NOT ALWAYS SO SIMPLE
But as hard as kindness can be, I want
you to know that you are never more like God than when you are kind, especially
when you are kind to people who don’t deserve it, but need it even more desperately
than you do.
There are people around us every day who
need kindness. Kindness is a needed commodity
and a necessary preaching topic. As a preaching professor says: “kindness is
not a controversial preaching topic” “Sometimes
preachers have to preach courageous sermons on very controversial topics. There are preachers who’ve gotten in big trouble
preaching very prophetic sermons on political issues, money issues, or about a
host of other controversial issues. But who’s ever heard about a preacher getting
in trouble for preaching on kindness. As
the popular Glenn Campbell song use to say, “Try a little Kindness”! Everybody
knows we need as much kindness as we can get in this world. Even the Boy Scouts say we need to be brave,
thrifty, clean, reverent, and kind. Well,
I'm not looking for trouble, mind you. But
I would like to also suggest that, if we really understood the nature of God’s kindness
toward us, and the kind of kindness we should show toward one another, there
are plenty of reasons that kindness can get complicated, very complicated. Kindness can be easy, but not always just
that simple.
A case in point is this story from Luke’s
gospel. It tells about a time when kindness
was more than a little complicated for Jesus.
In Luke 7: 1-10, we read how a Roman centurion in Capernaum sent some
Jewish elders to Jesus, requesting that Jesus come and heal his slave. Now, you have to read between the lines to
see all this, but remember first of all that the Romans were occupiers. They had invaded Jewish land and taken
control. They were not always ‘nice’
overlords. This situation could also be
tricky. This man who was sick was a
Jewish slave and the centurion wants him healed so he can keep him as his
slave. But the Jewish elders do say
that this centurion is kind to his slaves and to all the Jews. They say, he’s even ‘built’ our synagogue for us.”
Having rulers over you isn’t a good thing, but it helps when they are
kind. So hearing how unique this
centurion is, Jesus goes to pay a visit.
But as they make their approach to the
centurion’s house, he comes out to meet Jesus.
What happens next amazes Jesus:
The centurion says: “Lord,”don’t trouble yourself, for I am not
worthy to have you come under my roof…but only speak the word and let my
servant be healed. I’m a man of
authority, with soldiers under me; and give them all orders”. It
appears that the centurion wants Jesus to help heal his slave, but he doesn’t
want Jesus to get to close. It’s not
that he’s embarrassed to be seen with Jesus, but “He’s just not worthy”. So, he asks that he and Jesus not be seen
together at his home, but makes a special request that Jesus just ‘speak the
word’ and let the servant be healed.
Jesus did not have to go to this
fellow. This centurion needs something
from Jesus, and he can’t give Jesus anything in return. He can’t let himself and Jesus be seen
together. It’s a big, big risk, both for
this centurion to call upon Jesus to come; and it’s an even bigger risk for
Jesus to come near his home. But Jesus
did come, at least up to his door step. Jesus
went as far as he is allowed to go, and Jesus might have gone further, but he
wasn’t allowed to come in. Would you
heal his servant? Would call this great
faith? Or would you say this guy wants
something for nothing? How kind would
you be?
Jesus decides to honor the centurion’s
request and heal the servant from a distance.
Not only that, but also from a very long distance, across cultures,
religions, and all kinds of complicated differences, Jesus admires the first steps of faith from
this centurion who is, at least for now, still his enemy. Jesus even dared to give the centurion a very
big compliment, “I tell you, not even in
Israel have I found such faith”. Would
you go that far in kindness? Paying a
compliment to your enemy who is an outright sinner, making personal trip to
visit your enemy who needs your help, but does not dare to get close to you,
nor will ever be able to pay you back?
Then, of all things, granting your enemies request that will help him maintain
his dominating rule over you, now that’s kind---almost too kind. It’s the kind of kindness that will make
Jesus very popular with outsiders, sinners, prostitutes, tax collectors and
publicans, but it will also make Jesus much hated by insiders. Even
today, for many well established people, Jesus is just too kind. They can’t believe this form of kindess will
work in the real world. Being kind to
the certain kinds of people can get you in trouble. Have you ever been that kind?
In almost every religious tradition, in
order to become a priest or a minister you have to be tested on your theology.
You have to be examined to make sure, at least from that point of view of that
tradition, that you're theologically sound. I know one tradition that puts
candidates for the ministry in front of veteran ministers and lay leaders, and
they can ask as many theological questions as they want, until they're
satisfied that the candidate is theologically sound. There's one old minister
in this group who has asked the same question for 35 years to every single
ministerial candidate. He says to the candidate, "Will you look out the
window?"
The candidate does.
"Tell me when you
see a person out the window."
"I see one."
"Do you know that
person?"
"No, sir, I
don't."
"Good. Would you
describe that person theologically?" He's been asking that question for 35
years and he says that he has found that the answers tend to fall in one of two
categories. Either they say "That person is a sinner in need of the saving
power of God in Jesus Christ," or they say, "Whether that person
knows it or not, that person is a child of God, embraced by the love of God,
surrounded by the grace of God."
The old minister
commented, "I suppose both of those answers, technically speaking, are correct,
but it has been my experience that the ministers who give the second answer
make the better ministers because they see people not just as they are, but as
they will be in the future of God."
Kindness is can be easy, but it’s never
just that simple. It’s not simple
because kindness believes, sees, hopes, imagines, and dreams things that can
be, but are not yet there. And kindness
can dream very big, because ‘kindness is the refusal to see people only in the
present tense, but to see them in light of what God is doing to recreate and to
redeem their lives.” (From Tom Long, see note
below).
Finally, let me tell you another story
about a man went to catch an airplane at the airport and found that the flight
was delayed, so he sat down in the waiting area of the airport. Right across
from the waiting area there was one of the little airport restaurants. It was
in the middle of the afternoon, and the restaurant was largely unoccupied.
There was only one person there, a homeless man, shabbily dressed, his head
down on the Formica table top, resting. It wasn't long before a man who
appeared to be the manager of the restaurant made a beeline for the table and
my friend thought to himself, "Uh-oh, he's going to throw him out."
But instead, as the manager walked past the homeless man's table, he put down a
hot dog, just a hot dog. On the way back, he put next to the hot dog, a cup of
coffee. A hot dog and a cup of coffee. From one point of view it was kindness,
simple kindness. But from the point of view of the faith, the manager was in
effect saying, "In a few minutes I'm probably going to have to be the
manager of this restaurant, and you're going to have to be a homeless person,
and I'm going to have to ask you to leave. But for a moment, just a moment, let
us be who we will be in God's future. I’m going to try a little kindness: Welcome
to the feast, Brother. Welcome to the feast." (From Tom Long’s
sermon on Kindness found at: http://www.csec.org/index.php/archives/23-member-archives/346-thomas-long-program-4018).
Kindness is simple, but it’s not always
easy. And Kindness can be easy, but it’s
not always so simple. Kindness can be
hard, and it can get very complicated.
How complicated does kindness get?
It’s about as complicated as Henry James was, when he once said to his
young nephew, "There are only three things important in human life: be
kind, be kind, be kind." There is
nothing more simple, more difficult, more complicated, or more rewarding than to
‘try a little kindness’ you see out on the road of life. And if you are really daring, try a lot. We all need it. Amen.